Tuesday, January 16, 2007

Are Men Afraid of Strong Women?

This post may deviate a little from the title, there's a lot on my mind in relation to marriage and relationships in general. A little foreword: I'm reading the book titled "Power of a Praying Husband" and although I'm only in the first chapter, I highly recommend it to all the husbands (and soon-to-be husbands) out there. Stacie does a great job of laying out the biblical case for praying for your wife and what responsibilities the husband has in the marriage. There's a particular verse that should send a fear down every husbands' spine:

1 Peter 3:7 (AMP)
In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God's unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.]

If you don't honor your wife your prayers (your direct conversations with God) will be hindered and cut off. I've read this verse before, but it freaks me out everytime I read it! Moving on to the main topic at hand; I got to thinking why some men were afraid of strong women, when I got a revelation! Men aren't afraid of strong women, they're afraid of stronger women! Men do not want to be the weakest link in the marriage; and one can make a case that this is the biblical guideline. As a result, some men will try and keep their woman down so their manhood is not threatened. Let's face some facts, it's easier to bring a woman down than a man (generally speaking). As husbands, we have to work with our lady to bring her up; we need her to be as strong and confident as she can be so that together we can accomplish what God has set out for us to do. If you've entered parenthood, you need your wife to be as strong a mother as she can be.

Moving on to praying for my wife...it's hard. It's not that I'm selfish with my prayers, but I just don't feel comfortable praying for other people that much. I'll pray for my accountability partners, but that's because I know they're praying for me as well - and for some reason that makes it easier for me. Incorporating our spiritual lives has been a huge struggle for me and Kath, because we have no idea where to begin. Sometimes we pray together, sometimes we share verses with each other, but I'm kind of lost on how to make us one as a spiritual unit (and what boundaries need to be set, if any).

Random note: am I missing the point of the " We will wait upon the Lord" song or does it make no sense whatsoever?

9 comments:

Dave Sandell said...

I think it should be easy to pray for you wife. I have a conversation with God and I ask him for the things like encouragement, passion and strength for her with her job, I partner with her to ask for the things that she needs and the desires of her heart. I know that I get off course with this a lot, but praying shouldn't be intimidating. We're having a conversation with our creator, who wants to talk to us.

My wife and I do pray together and that's been a beautiful experience. It's a surprisingly vulnerable thing to do, and it has created a ton of intimacy between us. As for creating spiritual unity, I think that will come over time. If it's a struggle, set aside some fifteen minutes each week to share your heart with her, tell her what God has been talking to you about, and what you've been talking to God about. Maybe spend five minutes where you talk, then let her reflect back. Then listen to her for five minutes and reflect back. I bet it will be exhilarating and 15 minutes will eventually become an hour or more. Share your whole life with her - cleave and be one like the Man says.

In the end, remember... do not be afraid, the Lord is with you.

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