"Oh, so you guys are going through some hard times?"
That's the common reaction I hear when I tell others that me and Kath are going into marriage counseling; it's assumed we are having major issues. We want to have a comfortable, open environment where we can feel free to talk about certain things and get some advice from a couple we respect so they can help us see things clearer.
Me and Kath are such huge proponents of counseling; it has saved our relationship numerous times! Counseling gave us an outlet for our frustrations as we were learning to grow together; and our counselor(s) were able to offer a different perspective to each of us so we could see where the other person was coming from.
Counseling is not an admission of failure. Counseling is not admitting to "major issues" or an imperfect marriage (wait, who has a perfect marraige?? :P). I would encourage every married couple to see a counselor so they can give their relationship a "tune up"!
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Major props for doing counseling! I think counseling proves some major assets that the couple has, such as humility...a proud person "doesn't need help." Does needing help mean you're nearing failure?? No way! It's like taking your car in for an oil change. You do it because it's good for the car, not because the car is about to die!
The counseling can often seem like some admittance of failure. when nothing could be farther from the truth. When society use to be more genuinely communal and tribal place. It was common for a third party to aid and guide us. But in the individualistic world of today we often feel we should go it alone. Nobody feels comfortable to stop and ask for direction.
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